Love Is Not a Strategic Game ❤️‍🩹💔🎭❌


Real love does not arrive with noise.
It comes gently, unannounced, like rain you didn’t expect but deeply needed.

💞💞💞💞💞💞

When love finds you in midlife, it should not confuse you, frighten you, or make you smaller. It should not demand proofs, power, or performance. It should feel like relief a Home.
Like exhaling after holding your breath for years.


Love lives in simple things like-
-In showing up.
-In keeping promises.
-In patience.
-In silence that feels safe, not awkward.


Love is also restraint.
It means control over ego.
It means control over careless words.
It means control over the urge to dominate or belittle.

A person who loves knows when to pause instead of giving wound to other. 

Love understands rain.
It understands why the sea rises when the sky opens. It understands our emotions without mocking them. Love respects vulnerability.

Love cannot be taught at a certain age. Love is not a skill learned from books or podcasts. It is a natural intelligence of the heart. 

A person in love instinctively knows how to behave with another human being.
That is the most basic test of love.

Before stepping into love, one must clearly understand the difference between attraction, infatuation, a crush, physical desire, and real love. Confusing can costs people their peace, their self-worth, and sometimes years of healing.

Love is not superiority.
Not money.
Not status.
Not power.
Anyone who uses ego, finances, intellect, or control to belittle another person is not loving. They are feeding something else entirely.

And the most important truth:
If you are not ready to love, do not enter love.
-Not halfway.
-Not experimentally.
-Not selfishly.
Because you will hurt someone, or yourself, or both.

Clarity is kindness: 
-If you cannot offer emotional availability, say it.
-If you only want physical intimacy, say it.
-If you are unsure, say it.
But Please do not open a door halfway and invite another person to walk in fully.
Please do not take someone’s honesty and vulnerability while offering confusion in return. Do not play with emotions like a profit-driven transaction.

People are not experiences.
They are not trials.
They are not lessons for convenience.
And if you speak harshly, disrespectfully, or cruelly to someone, be prepared to receive the same energy back. That is the game you chose. But love was never meant to be a game.

Lying, cheating, manipulating, controlling, or keeping someone emotionally hooked while remaining unavailable is not romance. It is harm.

If your actions leave someone crying alone at night, know that this weight does not vanish.

Love, real love, is gentle.
It is care-giving.
It protects rather than wounds.

So this is the message:
Love should come with clarity.
Love should come with honesty.

Come only if you can hold another person’s heart responsibly.
And if you cannot—do not come at all.
Because love is sacred.
And people deserve gentleness, not games.

From lived understanding.

With 💕 
Nihira 



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